When it comes to child rearing I don't have any hard and fast rules, other than consistency. All kids are different and my three are no exception. Things work for one and not for the others. Big can be told to do something, Chaos has to be persuaded (or bribed) and Squish will do anything as long as you're coming too!
The problem we are having at the moment is with Squish and sleeping. He sleeps in his cot in the same room as Chaos. He has shared with Chaos since he slept through the night as a baby.
In August, my brother in law came to stay for a few months. Me, my husband and the boys all slept in the same room. So that Chaos could sleep we put Squish in with us if he woke up in the night (not ideal, I know but nothing was ideal then!) When my brother in law moved out we decorated the bedroom and moved the boys in so they would have more room to play. They love it!
With the others, I left them in their cots to settle. If they cried I would go back in every few minutes and settle them down again. I don't feel able to do that with Squish as he may wake up Chaos.
Initially, I slept next to his cot for a few nights until he would settle back down without being taken out of his cot. Then I moved my bed to the other side of the room so he couldn't see me but knows I'm still there. This resulted in alternate nights of sleep, then a wakeful night. Now, however, he has started waking at 3am again every night. Sometimes it takes an hour or more to settle him and we're exhausted. It feels like we just get him to sleep, shut our eyes then Chaos is awake. He is up about 5.30am so there isn't much in it! He also has two big molars coming through which probably ins't helping at all.
I am a bit stuck on where to go from here if I'm honest. I think I should go back to sleeping in our room. Maybe we should stick it out for a week, accept that we are all going to be tired and see what happens. He is pretty quick to catch on so it shouldn't take too long. I will keep you posted on how we get on..
Thanks for listening!